The Power of Separating Well - Choosing Peace Over Conflict (Part 1)
The Dirty Little Secret to Better Co-Parenting? It’s Not What You Think!
Ever wish your co-parent would just do what you want? There's a twist to making it happen —you’ll get the best results if you stop telling them what to do.
Are you a little bit intrigued? You’ll have to tune in to the latest episode of "Life’s Dirty Little Secrets" to find out how that works!
I had the absolute pleasure of being a guest on one of my favourite podcasts, hosted by the brilliant minds of Clinical Psychologist Emma Waddington and retired Clinical Child Psychologist Dr Chris McCurry. These two are not only experts in their fields but also thoughtful and reflective conversationalists. Emma is the author of Why Don’t We All Live Together Anymore?: Big Issues for Little People After a Family Break-Up. This illustrated book helps parents have conversations with their children about their separation. Meanwhile, Chris's book, Parenting Your Anxious Child with Mindfulness and Acceptance has been a staple on my recommendation list for years.
It was an immense delight when I had the opportunity to spend not one but two delicious hours in conversation with these fabulous people on my favourite topic: creating healthy two-home families.
This episode is packed with insights that can turn your co-parenting dynamic on its head. Here are some of the Dirty Little Secrets we reveal in Part One of our conversation:
- Why kitchen table negotiations don't work even with the best of intentions.
- Why it's hard to shield kids from conflict even when you want to.
- The essential skills you need to Co-Parent well.
- Prioritising self-care as the key to great co-parenting.
- How assumptions about behaviours impact conflict resolution.
- Why your co-parent might seem so rigid (hint: it’s not just to annoy you).
- And why you’re probably not seeing your co-parent’s “true colours” right now.
I also share the deliberate choices we made in designing our Co-parenting Intensive Reset, making it stand out as the go-to course for those serious about improving their co-parenting relationship.
And since I’m all about making your co-parenting journey smoother, we also chatted about:
- A simple tool to help you respond calmly to your co-parent.
- Fun ChatGPT hacks that can make co-parenting easier (yes, really!).
- The power of letting go of what’s “supposed” to work.
- And, of course, the ultimate secret—if you want your co-parent to do what you want, stop telling them what to do.
We wrapped up the episode with some real-life success stories of co-parenting relationships that have turned around, even with a reluctant co-parent. Plus, we offered guidance on the best time to engage a Co-Parenting Coach.
So, grab your headphones and have a listen! And don’t forget to stay tuned for Part 2—it’s just around the corner.
If you're ready to take charge of your co-parenting dynamic and start living life on your terms, you can dip your toes in with our free course, Six Steps to Co-Parenting Success, or jump right in and join us for the next intake of our life-changing Co-Parenting Intensive Reset. After all, you were never meant to do this alone.
Tiffany Rochester
Co-Parenting Coach
Tiffany is a pioneering force in transforming family life after separation, taking the stress and turmoil out of co-parenting with an ex. Equipped with advanced degrees in Psychology and twenty years of dedicated service, she passionately supports separated parents to bring ease and simplicity into raising children in one family across two homes.
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